I hesitated to share this, only because I am getting fatigued with the
arguments made in the comments on this post, and a relate one from the
sister of the author. Fortunately, I don’t get many comments here :)
I was reminded recently that even people who believe in theory in equality
will make horrifying comments about pregnancy and maternity leave. My
experience over the last two years has consistently been that the tech
world has a strong bias against children: the helpless, just-born and
On way that bias comes out is in disparaging comments about maternity leave
(increasing the guilt of women who already feel that in some way they do
not deserve time off after giving birth), complaints about the behavior of
parents who care for their children, and a painful lack of regard for the
people who do sacrifice a great deal to raise our children.
When I hear these comments, I find myself backing away, finding something
else to talk about. I don’t have the energy to argue about this anymore,
and I am saddened by the lack of compassion among my friends.
There are no perfect solutions.